Showing posts with label sick. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sick. Show all posts

Tuesday, February 28, 2023

Still Standing


We've had quite a spell of winter bugs: colds, flu, and more. 

Winter has been very winter this year, with lots of atmospheric rain and periodic plunges into the 20s. We were visited by snow in our hills and we may not yet be done with this frosty and wet weather.

We participated in two ABA sessions at our local bowling alley and while the second session was much more enjoyable for James, it is also where we picked up norovirus. Gah!

Through it all, James has been really patient. He is doing great with making snacks with supervision - quesadillas and PB&Js. He has started to participate more for PE. 

Still here, and moving forward.

Monday, April 25, 2022

Sick Day

Our Spring weather has been flip-flopping between 30s in the mornings, rain, and sunny highs of 84ยบ. Last night I awoke to hear James coughing and sniffling. This morning it's more pronounced. While he did not have a fever (amazing how, with a little practice) a quick hand to the forehead can accurately gauge this, I called him in sick to school and ABA.

One last task for this afternoon/evening - a COVID-19 test. It's always a good idea to be safe. Also, if he does test positive, I need to notify his school and ABA. I really hope it's a negative test - otherwise, there goes my week. Fingers crossed that all our vaccines and boosters are doing their jobs.

Image of a take home COVID-19 testing kit
ETA: Results are negative!


Sunday, April 18, 2021

Autism Parenting While Sick

 Okay, my second COVID-19 dose (Moderna) is taking more out of me than I wanted. Thus I am doing something I have not had to do for over a year: Parenting while sick.

As per usual, parenting a child (or teen) from your sickbed s a lot like normal parenting, only more so. I have experienced several varieties of this: married, with a toddler and preschooler. on up through the ages as our marriage broke up, until I was single parenting it across two households.

I found several useful strategies - many of which are captured in this nifty article: "Mom Is Sick! How to Parent Like a Champ When You Feel Terrible".


Cleaning standards were relaxed to a ridiculous degree. I fell in love with our washer dryer (and I am eternally thankful that I did not get sick at the same time my son did when we lived in an upstairs apartment with coin-op machines below that were not often free). Dishwasher? I love you too (when you worked)! 

My folks helped too, but my dad was not in the best of health, so we had to be careful. Their grocery drops were lifesavers. I was not able to connect with a lot of moms and we moved out of my former support network, so while help from friends did happen, it was not often.

I am proudest of the times (years ago) that I could set up a reading tent or get this kids to set up blanket forts while playing with me lying on the carpet nearby. There was also blanket time on the sofa with way too much Nogggin TV. For several years, James' big sister was amazing with taking over as activities coordinator and bringing me my water. 

This time: We each have our own bathrooms - thank you, thank you! Our new place is small, so we can yell encouraging things to each other through the walls. Thanks to the pandemic - I have a stocked pantry and home deliveries are still widely available.

ABA is also on hand, coordinating goals to help clean the kitchen a bit and keep himself on his school schedule. Tomorrow is supposed to be an in-classroom day. Ummmmm. We'll see.

I hate being sick when my kids need me. I now think about what will happen to James when I am not here ... and make another note on my pad: "Transition Programs, etc." - because, yeah.

Saturday, February 16, 2019

Stormy, Weathered

Over the past week we've had weather. Some places near us received over 10 inches of rain over 3 days. In an area that gets an average annual rainfall of about 36 inches a year, that's intense.

We had snow on the mountains near us ...


We had hail that looked and felt like snow...


We had amazing rain showers with double rainbows ....



And par for the course, James was sick. So he stayed home for two days. He went back to classes for  Friday, and now he has a three-day weekend.

The apartment looks like a teenaged boy has been hunkering down for a few days. Luckily respite has finally started and that helped him do his own laundry again. There will also be trash hauling, fridge purging, and open windows. Carpe storm lull.

Sunday, December 17, 2017

Breakfast Breakthrough

James ate french toast again!
Behold, the French Toast Miracle!


For families like mine, this is close to getting him to eat scrambled eggs.

After a week of us both being sick and eating pizza because I had a stash of them in the freezer, this is a welcome change.

Thursday, February 05, 2015

A Little Night's Sleep

James was up last night again just after midnight, cranky and fussy in the bathroom. These nights were never easy and now a few years on and back to work, I don't bounce back the way I used to.

I did some growling of my own, and got out the Bendryl, for his stuffy nose and wakefulness. He shrieked, which echoes some in the bathroom. He did trade taking the dose for iPad time in the morning.



James then went back to bed and slept for almost six more hours. He awoke in a much more cheerful mood, and I was happy to let him launch Angry Birds at the piggies on his iPad.


How wonderful it is that some good sleep and a new day can be a game changer for the better.



Monday, July 21, 2014

Undone By One Piece

So James and I are now both sick with a head cold. I *finally* found a way to get him his OTC cold meds & melatonin that will help him get to sleep and rest through the night (which gives me a chance to recover too). Now I am trying to keep him from being on an electronic device all day while I limp through some chores and try to rest.

The usual good solution, working on a puzzle, resulting in a whining stint because (horrors) ONE PIECE OF THE PUZZLE IS MISSING! He's put this puzzle together many times. I have no clue where that missing piece is. The puzzle came from the Dollar Store, so it's unlikely it's still in stock.

On a whim, I Googled "Missing Puzzle Piece" and ... wowsers - multiple web pages, two with links to the jigsaw doctor, who replaces missing pieces for a fee. Um ... no.

Usually James is very good about putting his puzzles away, so I really I hope I find that blasted piece.  I will probably end up making a new piece, the way his Dad did when he obsessed over the alphabet puzzle and THE LETTER U WAS MISSING.

Meanwhile, we played the SpongeBob Memory Game until James called a break.



I so want a nap now.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Sick Boy, First Day of School Girl

James has not been feeling well for the past 2 weeks. What started as a sore throat blossomed into a cold, which oozed into a sinus infection, creating post-nasal drip, which set up a nasty reaction with said sore throat ...

From WebMD, which has some
great info about coughs
We've tried steamy bathroom sessions, lots of water, rest, and simple routines for him. It's not getting better; he keeps relapsing. Last weekend I took him in to the doctor, who thought he might be starting a sinus infection and prescribed antibiotics and refilled his anti-nausea meds.


Today was his sister's first day of school. For months, she's planned to show up at the first day of school with purple hair. As long as it wasn't permanent or semi-permanent, it was okay with her principal and parents. This morning - James started moaning and acting like he was going to throw up.

I quickly called in and got him a doctor appointment. My husband got ready in record time to drive our daughter to her first day of school, me to work, and then James to his appointment. It was that extra chaos twist out of nowhere that seems common with special needs families.

Good thing my daughter and I prepped the night before for lunches, backpacks, and clothing ... because I made sure I had the time to turn her hair purple. It wasn't right that her long-planned feat for opening day of school to evaporate, dang it! Splat chalk is a very fun thing, by the way.

Good thing I made extra coffee. Because over the past 2 weeks I think I've been able to sleep through the night about 4 times, and I am tired.

Good thing that my husband was able to take James in so promptly. His pediatrician couldn't find anything new, but she did recommend staggering the evening meds. So we did, and I used one of the anti-nausea pills (well, half of one eventually made it into James) to help keep the antibiotic and cough medicines down.

Now I am listening to the crickets sing away madly, outside our quiet house. I am hoping for lots of healing sleep tonight for us all.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Haiku Fever

It's been a rough two weeks of viruses robbing us of sleep and health. I am somewhat punchy, as a result. This is not how to spend a summer vacation.

I think I have Haiku Fever:


Stabbing pains cause moans
that rip sleep and peace apart
stop, oh stop, oh stop!
....................

Skin burning, eyes red,
run all night like the Undead - 
Mom's a vampire now
....................

Noun, noun - who's got the
noun? Not I, evidently;
try again later
....................

Mt. Washme rises
from the floor in our garage.
No more eruptions!
....................

Housebound, an island
Where is Mindy Roberts now?
Miss her haiku fun
....................

Medicine in white,
so milky, and more desired
than vile fruit punch taste
....................

Summer - is it really?
Seem to spend way too much time
huddled in blankets
....................

Sunday, April 28, 2013

I've Got My Work Cut Out For Me

Well, I'll know what I'll be doing today:

Note: Allergies and stomach flu do not mix well.

I had to give James some of the anti-nausea pills that the ER doc gave me the last time he started yammying and could not stop, once started. The climax after that was pretty awful.

Then we both got 3 hours of sleep.

This morning he's taking on electrolyte water (I love you, Trader Joe's), blowing up the Death Star (go, you Angry Birds!) and has kept down 2 yogurt tubes.

Meanwhile, I love my washer and dryer.

Tuesday, May 01, 2012

Runaround Rodeo: Full Speed, Full Stop

Up at 5AM after hearing daughter moaning. Stomach flu. Gah. This simple fact triggers the following cascade of events:
  • Call to her school to report her sick
  • Call to job to report I need to stay home (see above)
  • Quarantine daughter ASAP and wipe down things she might have toughed yesterday, when she was the picture of health
  • Prep to make morning drop as quick as possible, being ready for a dismaying array of possible actions/consequences
  • Turn classical music on louder than usual, to drown out the sounds of pain -- it triggers extreme anxiety in her brother, which sets him up for a bad day at school
  • Make 4 stops in 30 minutes to accomplish direst of errands for the day; demolish planned list of activities and reassess for new, confined status
  • Take deep breaths and try to not yell; she did not plan or want to get sick
  • Try to not keep thinking "My day is ruined and once again I cannot do what I want/need. Brilliant. Not."
  • Notify respite care and CATS Student of current situation and let them pick whether or not to come over this afternoon; I need a break, but don't want to recklessly spread the bug
  • Swear under my breath, flashing back to That Scene in The King's Speech
My plan for the day is to break things down even further, into 10-15-minute chunks. Periodically check on daughter. Keep that music on. Go out back and take a break for me at least twice before my son gets home. Breathe.

PS: I finally got to sleep at 1 this morning. Yeah -- ow.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

SOOC Saturday: In the ER

New pediatrician at the med center, plus extreme symptoms with a residual of autism, equals a day in the hospital ER.

Do you know how many times I have been to the ER/hospital over the last year for my family? Too way damned many, that's how many.
Let's just say it's averaged more than once a month.
James was a patient kiddo through it all. He hurt like the dickens and fought the nausea like a champ. He did his best to communicate with a team that was not only new to him, but also unfamiliar in dealing with an Autistic pediatric patient.

He was so good about being poked and transferred from car to wheel chair to bed and then back again. I am glad I was able to talk them out of the ambulance ride. That would have stressed him out so much more.

 Trust me, you do NOT want to be watching Dora the Explorer like this.


While I am very grateful that we have some form of medical coverage, the copays just shot our monthly budget and added to our credit card debt, despite the weekly chunk that is already taken out to pay for said heath care.

And while the ER rocked and both the medical and administrative personnel in both facilities were attentive and lovely to us all throughout the long LONG day, I now know that I will also need to change pediatricians for the kids. Some things you can just tell are into going to work the way you need them to, true?

Yes, this so could have been a lot worse. I am very thankful it was not. It came at the tail end of a really nasty week, however, and it knocked me for a loop.

Still, there were parting gifts:

This is our life, straight-out-of-camera (well, some cropping was done in the interest of privacy issues); linking to the SOOC action at Marvelous Mommy's blog.
Come on over to see more or join in.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Sick

I have a head cold. Didn't feel so bad at first, but it's got my attention now. How will I get it together for Christmas and keep up as the driver for the family? Well, my fingers are crossed, so that's a start. Got some unexpected respite lined up for this afternoon. I think I'll get some Throat Coat, to go with the Mucinex and saline nasal spray. I want to use the big guns -- my prescription cough meds with codiene, but then I can't drive. Friday night can't come soon enough.

The kids are well, yay. But they need parents to take care of them. Oh well. At least grocery run is done for the week, we have gift wrap, and many presents have been purchased. If only I could find them. I hate being sick and worried over the holidays.

Looking forward to next week, when I can go back to enjoying the little things.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Too Early

James woke me up at 5-frickin'-ack-emma. And I really needed to sleep in, because I've been touched by a tummy bug. And I have to cook some dishes for Thanksgiving.

He is so lucky he is cute.

Slowly drinking coffee and coming up to speed. Luckily my good friend was up for some early morning texting. She's recovering in the hospital.

Family and friends, for you I give thanks (we can skip those 5am wake-ups & sick bugs).

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Special Exposure / Wordless Weds: Speechless

I was looking through photos from this past week and came across some I took of James when he was sick. He looks so big - I can hardly believe he's still six.

He's been so chatty recently that I forgot (until I came across these pics) that he stopped talking almost completely for the 3 days he was miserable.



A huge reason to be thankful. I love hearing him script, ask, and pretend. He's found his voice, in more ways than one.


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Sunday, November 13, 2011

A Transcendental Day (& Night)

After 2 full days (and 3 nights) of James being sick and crying, I decided it probably wasn't the flu that was making him so sick. I called for a weekend appointment. Unfortunately, the earliest one was nearly 4 hours away.

Deciding to make the best of a rather crappy morning, I bundled up James and put him in the van, telling my husband that I'd take him for a drive until the appointment, so at least he and our daughter could get some rest. My head ached from lack of sleep, stress, and the prospect of several long, bleak hours to kill on the road with a sick, wailing child strapped in behind me.

And you know, instead I had a morning that I will remember for years to come. Absolutely amazing and gorgeous. The mist was slowly rising up off the vineyards, whose leaves ranged from light green to gold to flaming oranges and reds as they rolled over hills and filled the flatlands. The redwoods and evergreens were towering and dark green on either side of the road. The rising sun would cut in through the fog and light up dead moss and yellowing vines and leaves in the foreground. Despite worrying about James and being slowly driven mad by his toneless stimming, I enjoyed the heck out of all that beauty.



We stopped for a few minutes by the River, and I was able to take some photos. I held James for a bit in my arms, and we watched a commune of ducks as they flocked to food underneath a tree, quietly quacking to one another as they mingled and munched. We drove across the River on a beautiful little bridge and down a side street that was slowly being taken back by the redwoods. And darned if we didn't see ... a splatty witch, one of James' most favourite Halloween things ever.
Duck brunch.

On a bridge to Nowhere ...

Watch out for that tree!
We meandered down to Jenner and up the coast for a bit, then turned around and headed back inland to the med center. We arrived very early, and I used our steadfast double stroller to transport James. To keep him from driving the other patients in the waiting room mad, I strolled him gently up and down the corridors until our appointment came. Once installed on the exam room table, James' turned to exhaustion and he nearly fell asleep before the doctor arrived.

The on-call doctor was very kind and seemed to size up the autism and health situations with James very quickly, even though I am pretty sure he'd never seen him before. I was rather surprised to hear that James did not have the flu or tummy bug, rather the yammying was due to excess of phlegm, bronchitis, and the beginnings of infections in both ears. The doctor was very kind to me as well, saying that unfortunately, James had to kind of get to this point before he could be helped by antibiotics so I did well to bring him in today, rather than earlier or later.

So we got his antibiotics, pain reliever (suppositories, just in case), and albuterol inhaler and headed back to the van. As soon as James was loaded into his car seat, I gave him the antibiotics. Over the course of the afternoon at home, I was able to also administer the albuterol and some food (the doctor said he could even have dairy products). He rested on the sofa and I noticed he'd stopped moaning and doing the verbal stims. He told me that his throat had stopped hurting. He took a nice nap and took more food. Within half and hour of the food, he was sitting up and talking again. As I type this entry, he is singing along (in his own words)to a Baby Einstein video.

From my big purple armchair I salute Alexander Fleming, Edward Abraham, Clodomiro Picado Twight, and others who brought us antibiotics. The difference between James of this evening and this morning is literally like that of night and day. Between James feeling so much better and the unexpectedly transcendent morning, my day has undergone a transformation for the better as well.
 

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Sick of Being Sick

I thought we were doing really well, with only my daughter succumbing to a bout of the flu early in the school year and me with a sinus cold just before Halloween.

Well, then December hit. Duh-duh-duhhhhhhh!!! My daughter's birthday, Christmas, gifts & cards for not only family & friends, but for teachers (or in James' case, his support team of 7). Oh, and don't forget James' birthday to follow early in the New Year!

Yeah, the sinus cold came roaring back, and gave me 2 presents: bronchitis and a sinus infection. I blame not being able to sleep, due to kids having bad dreams and James coming down with a cold (later to bloom inot a raging ear infection; we were on antibiotics at the same time: yay. not). Oh, and the fact that our temps would bounce between 70 and 20 degrees a couple of times a week. So not healthful.
James, bursting into howls of "Mooommeeeee" and tears at his schools Christmas performance. The meds had just started to kick in and his aide said he did great singing with his class, but it was Game Over when he saw me.


Two weeks before Christmas, I threw in the towel and basically shut down. There are a couple of people who will be getting their Christmas in January. Sorry, that's how it goes this year.

I spent my days on the sofa, reading Meg Cabot and drinking enormous quantities of tea. Who cares if I doze off or lose my place when I get dog-piled by the kids? It's Meg Cabot, my tasty bon-bon lit of the moment.

It really, really sucks being "It" for 2 kids and a husband while being dragged under constantly by a virus and infection. It's not like I can call a friend or hire a sitter. My friends are either up to their eyeballs themselves or 70 miles away and happily involved in their own lives. No money for a sitter. And the respite care folks? Well, our luck has broken with them and lately I've been hearing more promises than opening the door to actual aides. I understand, it's the holidays. Still sucks for me.

Days like this are when I feel tired, having to be on call 24/7 (because my husband, in addition to working full-time, has seen his commute balloon out to about 2.5-3 hours each way on a regular basis -- you do the math, he's wiped too). My folks were down & out from this virus too. In fact, a high point was high-fiving each other weakly as we managed to swap favours one day.

I don't know if it's the cold, being off his schedule, or a growth spurt (or probably a combo of them all), but James has suddenly become uber-sensitive to noises: the bathroom fan, the microwave, any music on the stereo. He screams and becomes so upset. So add to all the activities, trying to balance being protective of him and not letting him get walled in too much by sensitivities. He's also become very clingy and I keep hearing "Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" every 5 minutes. Sometimes my head feels like it's about to explode.

I am so sick of being sick. I am trying to hang in there, breathe as deeply as possible, and focus on having a healthier start to 2011. I am trying to keep a check on my whinging about being sick so I can manage to enjoy some of the good things that have been happening: Our daughter having a great birthday party with her new classmates, both kids' faces when they saw their first new bikes on Christmas morning, quiet moments when my husband and I could just relax and watch the kids having fun ... and Meg Cabot on the sofa. With a pot of tea.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Scheduling Dilemma

I am not a fan of shoe-horning activities into a child's day. That said, James is getting the last of several services this month. Preschool for special needs kids. SHAPE assistant hours (with constraints but also with a fabulous woman).

M-Tu-F, James has a decent schedule, with only preschool in the morning. W-Th, he has program for most of the day, with a 2-hour gap of doom in the middle. In theory, he can rest in that interval. What it actually does is push him. Sometimes that's good. But other times, he gets pushed over the edge and:

He gets sick. We had carsickness last Friday, followed by a summer cold, which he gladly shared with me.

It's so scarily easily to just sit and do nothing. That's not good for James' growth with speech and development in general. I am constantly striving to balance. A formula for success has so far eluded me.

Thursday, February 04, 2010

Getting Better

We have had ourselves a sick week this week. James' cough from last week picked up a fever and sore throat by last Friday evening. Saturday he was one sick little boy. Sunday he was better, but Monday morning found him fever-bound again. I started giving him Benedryl to help him rest from the nasal run and coughing. It had the added benefit of helping him reunite with his forsworn afternoon naps. The periods of restfulness did wonders for him.

I have been skating around this for two weeks. My husband has spent a couple of days in bed over this. Half the kids in James' class have been out all week, and there have been a lot of absent students and parent volunteers in my daughter's class across town. This is true Evil Cold Stuff.

Today I let him go to his regular school in the morning for about an hour and a half. He had a good time and was reported to be full of energy. I took him home for a quiet hour and then brought him over to his afternoon program for a couple of hours, where again he did great. He was interested in hot french fries for the first time in over a week. He actually sat down and ate some early dinner tonight. We had BMs in the potty!!! Then I saw this, and swooped him off to an early bedtime:
James, showing he needs a rest ASAP

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

Special Exp./Wordless Weds: Bouncing Back on 09/09/09

What did we do before we had our indoor trampoline?


James' cold has actually gotten a little worse and it's thrown his schedule and mine off kilter. He's missed some school and some program, and this week I am picking him up a bit early from both so he can hopefully at least get used to what days he's doing what things. Luckily, James has been willing to go forth and try. Except when he is really not feeling well. Then he is truly at home, in bed, and sleeping.

Homework has started to ramp up for both James' sister and myself, and I am just starting to feel like I am getting the hang of things. Help! I can't imagine what I'd do if I didn't already have several years of post college (before kids) experience under my belt to keep me a little calmer and a tad more confident in my abilities.


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