Back To Work, Day 2

I know its early days, but things seem to be going well, both on the home front and at the new job. I miss the kids, but am so relieved to be earning some money and working with skills that I enjoy using. The coworkers are good people and the close-to-home location is a big plus too. It looks like I'll be able to attend back-to-school day with James and pick him up from summer camp next week.

After several years of trying other peoples' day cares, it is very nice to have found someone to watch the kids in our own home. We have a yard and a park nearby (to say nothing of tons of toys) so we are certainly equipped. I think this will also keep anxiety levels way down for James and his sister.

I must confess, it is also nice being able to concentrate on something for longer than 2 minutes without having to intervene in a fight or to correct some bad habits.

And when I come home, the kids are excited to share things with me - like the fact that the cat takes naps in the garage during the day and the low-down on all the names of the Angry Birds Star Wars characters. Bed time routines are extra sweet.

Magic Marker Monday: Rainbow Me

I am just now getting around to unpacking James' take-home packet from summer school. There was some good work going on there. I love how James is able to express more and more about what he is thinking. I love seeing his drawings and bursts of colour.

I really like all the information going on in this exercise:

I think it's interesting that he sees himself with brown hair, when I see it as a mix of brown and gold, with some reddish-gold highlights. I am betting the orange food that he loves is cheese puffs. Cheetos, in particular.

The upright bodies, long legs, and explosion of toes tickle me no end. Is that a crown on the right hand figure? His sister is rubbing off on him!


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Wistful Vista

We have a sleepover play date in progress for James' big sister. It seems to be a success, with much giggling, experiments with makeovers, and zany turns of speech. Not a whole lot of sleeping took place last night, but there was a protracted bedtime reading session that covered both Harry Potter and Junie B. Jones (Harry's 5th year at Hogwart's is not very helpful reading when battling homesickness, just so you know).

Pop quiz: name this playful duo.

Both girls have been cheerful to James, and he's enjoyed having another kid in the household mix. I do notice, though, that he has been watching the proceedings with a wistful eye. He would dearly love to have a play date of his own. Even though James is a friendly, playful kid, I have had a very hard time getting play dates for him. Many times, parents will say okay and then never return my calls. When I can connect with other parents, our busy schedules often compete, and play dates fizzle.

If James is with other kids, he gets very excited, but does not know what to do. His speech delays and difficulties makes it hard for his excited bursts of speech to be understood -- even I have to guess what he means at times. We are working on bike riding skills. He's got the turn-taking down, but getting him to focus and stay with a game is really difficult. Just a couple of weeks ago, his summer camp counselors tried to get him active in a game of line tag, but he just wanted to watch.

I've tried playing with James, to help model what playing with someone is like and see where he might get "stuck." He can be a lot of fun, especially with hand puppets, singing, and dancing. At one time he could play Red Light/Green Light for several minutes. We had less success with T-ball, badminton, and basketball/soccer. Play dates at a playground tend to work. I've read articles and talked with therapists -- helping our spectrum kids have successful play dates is a moving target.

Back to this weekend -- I had to make a quick trip to the store, and asked James if he wanted to come along; he did. On the way to the store, he asked if he could see his friend across town, and stop by his house. Knowing this family pretty well, I said okay, but I'd have to call first. Luckily, it all worked out, and we were welcome drop-in visitors. James got to see his friend, visit with people he liked, and play with their house full of kids. It was nice to see him taking turns on the trampoline and watch one kid encourage him through the rules of their made-up game. Then James started trying to sit on his head and ate a dandelion. My cue for us to go. Heavenly days!

A Lazy Week

We have about a month to go before the kids start back to school, but my summer vacation is at an end. Monday I start work at a new job. My first in-an-office job in about 10 years - wish me luck. I am hoping this will work out.

Meanwhile, kids and I enjoyed a last lazy week together. As the weather was a bit cool and James seemed to be teetering with coming down with something, we stayed very close to home, and we didn't even try his morning swim lessons, which is a shame, but he needs to stay healthy.

Here is some of what we did:

James is starting to like the suspension bridge at the Ranch.

As James was feeling a bit peakish, he stayed on the Barn's porch instead of his usual trampoline marathon.

A trip to the fish store cheered both kids.

Our grapes are ripening! Kids like picking the ripe ones, although James won't eat them.

Farmers' Market! We still love the freshly baked French Baguettes.

We did persuade James to take a quick dip in the pool on our one hot afternoon.
He liked riding the tube & blowing water out of it at his sister.

Big Sister had her swim lessons. She is getting rather good, especially in backstroke - just like her Nana!

"Uh, hellooooooooo!"
James tries the party line at the old Healdsburg Library, which has a really nice exhibit on Fred MacMurray & his ranch.

Special Exposure / Wordless Weds: Flag Salutes

From end of May through early July, our country's flag waves just about everywhere we look. Even though Flag Day is officially in June, I feel like July is when I notice it most. Here are some salutes to our flag:

James, waving to someone he knows in one of our local parades.

Patriotic bunting at our last baseball game.

A Fourth of July Block Party

Greetings as you approach the Barn at the Ranch.

Over the pool, as the sun sets on our evening swim lessons. 

New solar lights for the yard.

Home town decor.

Love the light on this.

What we see as we drive through Town.

Our fire station, as we honor those lost from the Granite Mt. Hotshots.

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               and ... Wordless Wednesday

Magic Marker Monday: Camp Art

Both kids attended the morning session of our town's Summer Camp. It's really been the perfect program for us for several years. By now, much of the staff knows James, or get to know him quickly. The theme was Wacky Water Week, which is reflected in the crafts they completed and brought home.

James did a pretty nifty job on his sea medallion and fish plate painting. He has not, to date, named his squid. He's insisting it's a jellyfish.

Left to right: plate fish, sea medallion, squid/jellyfish in a bottle.

His sister made some really cool fish art:

I love this one in particular: it's how I feel some mornings.

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Choices and Changes

No posts last week. I've had a lot to process. Financial pressures have kept me applying for jobs outside the home. Last week, another interview. Followed by despair over the doubtful prospect of finding money rabbits to pull out of a threadbare hat. Kids fighting. Smoldering atmosphere in general.

Now, on personal and home-front levels, big changes are suddenly due to arrive this coming week.

Because late Friday afternoon: an email. A job offer from the interview.

The good: Wage is the minimum I can consider for a 9-5 office job and get adequate daycare coverage for kids. It's close to home. I could still take the kids to school in the mornings (which is huge, considering how the morning routines sets the tone for both kids for the whole day). It seems like a good company, with people I could see as good coworkers. The job is a new one for me, but it's still in my chosen and preferred area of work. There is job growth potential. I am hopeful for benefits we can use.

The worrying: I haven't worked a 9-5 office job in over 10 years. Routines? Huh. We'll have to make up some new ones, I guess. For the first time, I won't be Right There to work with James' teams. After last year's start, this gives me the shakes. I worry that I won't be able to remain as calm and patient as I have in the past. I worry about losing touch with my soon-to-be-teen daughter. Can you tell I worry a lot? Here's the big one: I haven't done this before and I am afraid of what some of the changes do to me, to us as a family.

I have worked for several years, balancing working for an employer with raising a family. Dear Lord, how I worked. Some years it felt like I was "on" 24/7, but I needed the flexibility whose flip side was writing reports, emails, and memos until 2am because for most of the day I attended phone conferences, made some web updates, and then tended to sick kids, cleaned, did errands, homework patrol, and had countless meetings for IEPs, teacher conferences, and paperwork appointments for James' services or my daughter's school situations. I combined vacations and family visits with Client appointments in a region 8 hours from us.

Then James hit the school system and my employer's flexibility diminished remarkably. Time to choose.

I resigned and focused on James and family. I was lucky enough to continue my work as a consultant. Then the recession hit all the non-profits I worked with, and money got even scarcer. I started looking for work about a year ago. Then James' school year started off bad and got progressively worse. My husband became ill, unable to work. We had to give up a car. We actually qualified for food stamps.

Time for change.

I know James' classroom and team support improved drastically. I am glad that my husband's health has improved so he can work, and that he's found some much closer to home. I am happy that James' sister is in a stable school environment for the next 2 years. I am grateful for the local support network that I've grown over the past year or so. Yes, the changes make me very nervous, but they are part of life. My friend posted this graphic on her FaceBook feed. How appropriate:

All I can do is try. But I am going to try really hard!